Dr Ranj Singh breaks silence after ex-wife recalls their 'messy and painful' divorce

This Morning's Dr Ranj Singh has broken his silence for the first time since his ex-wife shared an emotional post about their 'messy and painful' divorce. The TV star, now 46, told his wife Sulvinder Samra he was gay after six years of marriage which led to their divorce in 2011. On what would have marked their 20th wedding anniversary last week, Sulvinder shared the devastating impact that the divorce had on her life and her self esteem, stating she was left feeling 'extremely unattractive' and 'ashamed'. In an Instagram post, she wrote: "I mourned.

It was heavy because the future I thought I had was gone and the person that I thought I had married was gone as well." She revealed that despite trying to 'embrace [her] new life with travelling, partying', she let the 'past dictate her life' and struggled to 'let anyone in’'. Sulvinder and Ranj, were 29 and 30-years-old at the time of their separation. The nervous system coach told her followers that 'you get to choose what your story is going to be...no one else' adding that she had 'never wanted' her ex-husband's coming out to be her 'story'. Now 45, she reflected on how different her life turned out from what she had expected, writing: "I thought my life would go as planned...

Work hard. Get a degree. Get a job. Find a partner.

Get married. Have kids. Instead I had a messy and painful divorce. "I could not trust anyone.

I did not trust myself. I believed I wouldn't be a good mum, I'm not good at relationships, I did not deserve any happiness." She also revealed that she eventually gave up on her dream of becoming a parent after failing to find another partner. "I accepted that I would only be an aunt. That having children was not my future'." Her moving post has since went viral online with Dr Ranj, who is a long-term relationship with partner James Colebrook, now breaking his silence on the topic this morning on Monday, June 2.

The TV star stated 'this is something I never expected to revisit' in his caption and emphasised he was sharing his side of the story with 'kindness' and not intending to take away from anyone else’s story. In a long statement he began it's been almost two decades since the 'complicated, emotional and deeply personal' time in which he came out as gay. He continued: "I’m genuinely sad that this subject can still bring up pain and difficult feelings. That has never been, and would never be, my intention.

"I’ve only ever spoken about it because it’s a significant period of my life, when asked directly, and in the hope that it might help someone else. I don’t do it for attention or sympathy; it’s a very painful time." He noted he was careful to leave other people identities and perspectives out of it when he recalled that period of his life. As he acknowledged that 'everything has already been said' about it, he added that 'people still make assumptions and pass judgement' but 'life and relationships are rarely straightforward'. Discussing their marriage in his 20s, he said that their relationship fell apart 'for many reasons' including the fact they were 'young and still working [themselves] out'.

He argued that he discovered he was gay through therapy and never set out to 'intentionally mislead anyone'. Acknowledging things might have ;been different' if had he figured out his sexuality earlier, he said 'identity and sexuality are complex, fluid and evolving things'. He wrote: "We all make decisions and take steps we feel are for the best at the time. Sometimes we get it right, sometimes we don’t.

When we don’t, it can be painful and messy, but more than that, it’s just sad and heartbreaking for everyone involved. There are no winners in a breakup." He then spoke of the importance of his marriage in what they 'shared' and 'meant to one another', staying that he 'looks back at that time, and that person, with nothing but respect, gratitude and kindness.' Dr Ranj concluded: "It’s important we keep moving forward, which is often easier said than done. As long as every step we take is with kindness – towards others and ourselves – that’s all that matters." He was met with support from his partner James, who commented: "Love you and always proud of you." The daytime TV star has previously expressed remorse over the emotional impact of discovering his sexuality situation had on his ex-wife. In 2018, he told The Mirror: "I was completely broken.

It was the lowest point in my life. "I can only imagine how hard it was for my wife, though – she didn’t deserve any of that. I feel so incredibly sorry for what she had to go through."